Jealousy

Well, have you ever feel like dying from jealousy..? When you type “how to stop dying from jealousy” via Google search engine, this article of mine pops up. You might want to see how I behave from jealousy.

I won’t say I've not jealous of anything before. But I’m pretty good at handling it. I just don’t really see it as a matter. No big deal for me. You may think wow… this girl, too high confidence level in her, in her guy or she got no sense of feeling. I've got feeling. And I am kind of emotional that kind. Or else, I won’t blog to express.

Yeah…. My jealousy is about a boy-girl relationship. Normally people will jelly of the same gender trying to seduce your partner being labeled as “xiao san”/ 3^rd partner a.k.a high risk contagious personnel. :P who doesn't label or give name towards someone who is able to threaten their position…? If you fit in the situation above, continue reading and click on the advertisement even you don’t fit because it may be useful information provided for your future or friends.

Firstly, let me introduced, I am in a relationship with my boyfie for more than 5 years and less than 6 years at this current moment. You may say it is long, while for me, it is short. Till the day when all our hair becomes whitish-grey, I MAY consider it is long. It’s never enough when you have the right one.

>5years 6 months = 365days X 5 years + (6X30days) = 2005 days. It’s just 2005 number of days. Long..? Seriously, it’s not. I wish 1000 years being together if possible. And I know in my next life, he is going to find me again. And again and again we will be together-gather for every life till a word called “FOREVER”. For your information, we seldom get into the state of jealousy. This is not necessary at all. Are you jelly of me now..? haha… How do you think we maintain..? please don’t jealous of my relationship. You can make it happen too.

NO.1: JE-A-LOUSY Free

Remember, jealousy form from this few alphabet but has caused plenty chaos and ruined many relationship. Very powerful and cruel I say. 

Do you see “je”..? in French, it means “I” 

There is “a” and I’ll assume that is “AM”. 

Lastly, very obvious you see "LOUSY". 

When you are in the trap of jealousy, you become someone lousy out of a sudden.

From my point of view, jealousy is a waste of time. I am not sure how you spent your time daily, but I am a busy person. I've goals to achieve, I've got errand to run, assignment to do, house chores to do. I wouldn't want to spend my precious time on these kinds of things. Jealousy is a lousy feeling. Who feel good from it..? Unless you jelly die about yourself. Well, that is also negative toward your friends for you keep on boasting your own good and pointed out others weaknesses indirectly. I don’t trade my precious time for these lousy feeling which waste my tears consists of sodium taken away from my body. Blekkk..

No-2: Be a smart woman

Besides, it is not a healthy attitude. If you keep going on like that, just who can bear this kind of annoying attitude? A little of these can spice up your relationship. But how many seriously benefited from it..? Usually this jealous thingy bring more harm than positive effect lur.

No-3: Be a woman behind a successful man

Wow… come to the golden rule I love the most. Haha… As a wife to be I need to be decent. In Chinese it’s called “大方得体”. Since young, I already got this mindset. When I become my husband wife, I must portray generosity and elegance. I seriously hate those wives with narrow mind that cannot communicate. If you don’t understand, what is happening or who, how, when blah blah blah (all those CIA investigations questions also come out. Trololol…) you can always ask your beloved. Is it a misunderstanding or seriously got problem. Don’t make judgments from your very own kiasu+ kiasi, assumption/ believes. What you see and hear may not 100% the truth. So, why not sit down and discuss while having some tea. I am sure your other half is willing to share his experiences and thoughts. If you agree to share your heart and future together, don’t you should have at least that much amount of trust in him..?

No-4: Be a generous woman

A simple example to show generosity of a girl is by giving her partner all the freedom he wanted. If your partner only has you in mind, he will come back to you eventually. If he does not come back when you send him away, that means he is not yours either. Why waste time on this kind of people. I prefer my partner assured me that he is mine and no need me to worry at any circumstances. Don’t you think it is troublesome to worry and check on him/her every second..?

No-5: Be a woman to solve and not create problem

Think about it, when you’re jealous, who is the happiest person? Is it your partner? NO. You only create more headache for him. Trololol... When couples fight due to jealousy, I am that kind of person eating popcorn and laugh at you like watching drama.

No-6: Be a woman that ask for love and not jealousy

Life is too short to be jealous of others. My 5 years plus journey with him is only 2005 days. Why do I want to reduce my sweet moment by jealous-ing at others, having some cold war by never want to talk and fight fight fight..? I would rather appreciate for what I already have; the greatest and mighty him. And then every moment, every day pass happily for he is there with me.

No-7: Be an independent woman

I think everyone in this world has their friends consist of both gender. Should I be sensitive towards his girl-friend..? Nah... I remember he introduce all his A-level and university girl-friend via Facebook. Haha.. He will further explain their behavior, attitude, character. We will discuss how well/ bad they are. Oopssiii~ I don’t meet them personally but I know who they are. I know who my boyfie hanging out with. I actually do hope his friends can make his day fun. I can only do my role as girlfriend for a minor part in his life, where friends are great influences too. Meeting more people can learn more thing especially girls who are better in studies. He can get help from them de ma. Haha.. think of what good stuff a person can bring for your partner. When you say you love him, you don’t need to lock him up with you. If your world is only made up of each other and no friends, that is so pathetic. I've got my friends to entertain and he got his own. When we meet, we can share so many shocking stories which you can’t when you only cling to your partner.

N0-8: Be a woman to change for better

When he socializes with others, he knows your strength and weaknesses better. When you compare your partners with others, don’t forget he does that also. The good news is, though you are lacking, he still wants to be with you. Why are you still stubborn and don’t get it..? All he wants is to be with you and he can’t stop socializing with other people. You can’t ground him and be by his side 24/7. Yet, you want to throw your princess tantrum and be jealous. Huh.. Tough life for a guy who has high level of jealousy girlfriend. In fact, it's better to turn jealousy into a positive motivation to be a better girlfriend and your man will love you more.

No-9: Be yourself, woman

I can say that, my boyfie see one pretty girl will like one. When they are more, he likes more. I admit I do like to see handsome boy too. We used to discuss who is more handsome among 10 guys or prettier among some girls. If I am to jealous each and every one, I think I’ll be freaking busy. My tears later become free flow. So, I don’t give a damn. You want to like or do what-so-ever, go ahead. Just don’t go over the limit or have bad intention. When you want to play, there is a consequence, you need to bear yourself. For example, my partner flirts with girl. And then he fall in love with the girl. A consequence is, I’ll just leave. Simple as that. I don’t really care what he is up to with other people, most importantly; I know how well he treats me. I've known him for so long. I understand and also he understands me more than myself. I trust he is not that kind of simply person that have low standard. Oops..

N0-10: Be a happy woman

Your own happiness depends in yourself. Don’t rely on your partner action to create your happiness. Being together in a relationship most important is both side also happy. Win-win situation. It’s easy yet many people like to complicate things. It ended up with trust, faith and honesty. There is no need for more. When you have these 3 weapons in your journey, don’t be afraid of snatch thieves in the middle of the road.

I do jealous. Depends on mood, time, weather, peoples and etc. When I am in the state of jealousy, it is a choice I choose to and is under my control. And when I did jealous, I will confess to him. Let him settle the problem. We don’t know who or how it is created. There was once I try to hide it. It was hard for me and him. I give up and confess everything. 2 brains are better than 1 alone. A heart-to- heart pillow talk settled everything. Dumb right. In the end, I jealous him for having me. Lalalala….~ haha…    

I hope you can jealous of yourself in your life for having such awesome partner that is now holding the palm of your tiny little hand. Good luck. All of the above is solely my thinking to let you see from another way.